Here's another view of LG's first minutes, from the point of view of a very tired and worried papa.
I've been thinking back about what I wrote earlier on not getting my tubes tied just yet. Viewpoints can change a lot with a little bit of experience. When the doctor told me that I had a vertical and horizontal incision in my uterus (an upside-down T) and that if I had more children I'd have to have a scheduled c-section because of it... well, it got me thinking. And with all the talk and fear of bleeding heavily prior to LG's arrival fresh in my mind and heart, I know that I don't feel safe having any more children. My fear is that my uterus would tear apart before the baby arrived. And frankly, I don't want to go through another c-section and recovery. But the primary reason is my fear that my uterus wouldn't hold up.
I told Tomek all of this, and that I didn't want to be cut open again to have my tubes tied, he started thinking about a vasectomy. They are free, apparently. I think his reasons for considering one are slightly different than my reasons. To him, two kids is plenty. And I guess it is... I've always thought my body is strong and resilient. But two children later, lots of stitches, pain meds, bleeding, and time spent lying on my back, and I'm not so sure. I feel weakened, and I don't like that. I feel guilty not taking LB to the park to play like I used to. But if she sees the swings and wants "up", well, I can't do it. I did take her for a walk today, the first one on my own since I've been home, and it went well. And she went down for a nap very peacefully. She's been so ornery and grumpy since I've been home, I'm worried the terrible 2s have come early.
I hope that we can maintain the schedule that the hospital has put LG on, and that it will help create order in our lives.
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Reflecting
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2 comments:
im thinking about getting a vasectomy. i wish mine would be free.
I meant to comment before now. . . Life gets in the way, etc., but I've been thinking of you.
LG sounds like he's nearly ready to come home, which is fantastic. It's great that he's finally got all the tubes, IV's etc, out of him. And although having him home from day one would have been nice, him being in the hospital has given you time to rest and recover from your surgery, and get yourself and your family better after having the flu. A semi blessing in disguise. How are you feeling these days?
Talk to your Dr. regarding further potential complications if you do get pregnant again - Maybe you could have a healthy pregnancy again after this one. Although, if you and Tomek both feel that 2 kids is enough for you, then the vasectomy might be a good idea. It's all a matter of what you're both comfortable with. But you have to love that vasectomies are covered by medical - Makes life easier. And quite frankly, it makes sense for the man to get his "tubes tied", because it's not a major operation, it's done in 20 minutes, and there's about 2 days of recovery time. (As opposed to 2 weeks with a female's tubal ligation).
I hope you're all feeling better and that you get to have your little man home and in your arms very soon. You'll have to cuddle him like crazy to make up for your lost time!
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