In which my brother and I discuss family history & religion and I dodge the million dollar question.
S:I wouldn't mind tracing our geneology and heritage
me: me either.
gotta move fast though. oma could probably tell you a bunch of stuff about that side, but on mom's side... it's hard to go back. all of mom's dad's brothers passed away now i think.
S: Yeah
There are sites to figure that all out right?
me: probably but we don't have much to go on.
S: I think Oma has a bladder infection so she might not be around much longer
me: mom has photocopies from her dad's college yearbook--i called brandon college in manitoba and asked if they had the 1936-37 yearbook and the guy was really nice about it.
WHAT
she didn't tell me that.
S: I think.
Is this like a secret project or can I talk to mom about it?
me: well the yearbook stuff i got for mom when we still lived in oregon. she has it.
but honestly i'm going to write to uncle h. i don't know if he's even still alive. i'm not going to try to mend any fences or anything because i dont know wtf all the feuding was about. but he'd remember grampa ... and he and his ex-wife are the last people we know who would remember him well.
don't tell her i'm going to write to him. ok?
i might chicken out, but it's just a thought i had today
S: aight
Just don't take any shit from him.
Or I'll kick your ass.
:)
me: :P i know. he's written to me and made digs at mom which was why i stopped communicating with him 6 years ago he weas really in support of my writing. i used to send it to him and he'd send me feed back and send me books and stuff.
i'm going to tell him i'm married and tell him how fortunate i am to have in-laws who have never shown me anything but love and kindness even though they are roman catholic and know i was raised in sc!entology. and i'm going to tell him i dont know what all the feuding was about... and something about the importance of family. a lecture, basically. and if he wants to be a crochety old bugger then fine. but i'd like to know more about that side and grampa's side of the family.
mom's parents are buried here ya know. i've never even gone there. never knew till this past summer they were there.
S: I wouldn't recommend going into religion. That's a touchy subject with almost everyone.
Maybe just keep to the basics and ask him about the side of the family
me: well it pisses me off that people tread so lightly around it. this is who we are & we are good people. we never hurt anyone so fuck you.
gah
S: Yeah
I try to ignore all the bullshit on the internet
I'm pretty raw on the subject and all the messages I get on f@cebook and mysp@ce to free myself from the Church's evil clutches etc.
in other words: why all the hate?
me: on f@cebook? jeez
S: People get wrong ideas and don't fucking understand shit
and then they hate it because of it
and then Chr!stians get all pissy when Sc!entologists stand up for themselves saying look at all the persectution we went through blah blah blah
times change
me: basically until youve tried it for yourself, shut the fuck up
S: yeah
Are you still a sc!entologist?
me: not currently practicing, no. but i've taken things from it that are part of who i am, and that will never change.
S: But you're going to practice later once you get your life sorted out right?
me: my life sorted out? ha. you make me sound like a wreck. when i feel the need and desire to, then ya for sure.but right now i'm happy where i am with regards to all that.
S: I didn't mean your life is a wreck I just meant that you have two kids so things are kinda hectic
me: yeah things are. look don't talk to mom and dad about this ok? i already feel like a bit of a black sheep because i didn't graduate from high school.
S: pshaw
Yeah I got it
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its weird, but i only know a handful of the folks on my moms side. and they are dwindling quickly. my dads side is nice and robust though. we just keep churning out the little tiptons.
"churning out the little tiptons" i like that. :)
I am fortunate - My Mum did geneaology on her family and part way on my fathers. I know my German line of ancestors dating back to the 1500's.
Your best bet is to search for birth, marriage and death certificates. SO, say if you know your mother's full name, you could find her birth certificate, which would list her parents' names, and then you work you way back through time to find out. It won't tell you much personal information, but you will learn where and when your relatives were born and who they married.
There are some online databases (I know that BC has one and you can request microfilms of the certificates be sent to local libraries). I am not sure about other provinces and countries, though.
Maybe try a google search for geneaology sites? Just a shot in the dark.
I'd like to research my husband's family, just so Elayne will grow up with an understanding of who she is and where she came from.
And there is nothing wrong with being a "black sheep". You should practice whatever religion you believe in. Or if you're not 100% sure of any particular religion, then practice your own set of morals. I know that life is easier if you conform and are similar to your family members, or even your inlaws, but being true to yourself and your beliefs is going to teach your kids that thinking for themselves is a good thing, and that you'll support them if their ideals are different from your own. . . .
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