losing faith part 2

Where to begin... well for starters, the talk went all right. I mean, I couldn't understand any of it, other than the tears, but his parents didn't scream at him. They were visibly upset, tried to explain to him that he just needs to believe, etc. and he explained to them the occurrences and thoughts that led to his lack of faith. At the end of it all, they accepted his decision on some level, telling us that they had given him a good foundation of belief and morals (I think that's what they meant anyways) and it was up to us now as parents ourselves to make our own choices. And I was so grateful for that--they weren't forceful to Tomek at all at the end. I really admire them for being able to accept his choice on some level. I know there will come a time when we'll be doing the same with LB.

That said, in response to all your comments, I really have to stick by my gut feeling that christening is not something to be done lightly or casually or to make the grandparents happy. I think Phil and Ghost echoed my own thoughts on this. To me, it wasn't a battle to be won or lost; it was a decision Tomek and I made together and that was that. It wasn't something I wanted to hold over their heads or use later against his parents. I know our life is going to be different than the way they'd expect it to be, because I know up until now they saw their expanding family as a continuation of the Roman Catholic faith. But it's not going to be on our end. If Lily decides that's the path she wants to follow, then ok. I'm sure she'll be going to church on Christmas and Easter for masses sometimes, and that's fine with me. But I would like for her to have an understanding of both religions, and other religions too. I think the shunning of all religions is hypocritical. There is good to be found in all religions, there are good people within all religions. But I'm not going to get on that soap box right now.

So in a nutshell, it's all good. I think Tomek established himself as an adult, not just a son, and I know it took a ton of guts for him to have this talk with his parents and I admire him for it.