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Had to pick up my mother in law from the psych hospital once. I've also seen the porn boodmarks n my father in law's computer.
In general --and I'm going to phrase this as kindly as possible-- I prefer not to be in the company of my in-laws. Like I said a couple posts ago, the MIL is coming into town for the week of Thanksgiving, and I'm already concocting excuses for why I'll be working late most days.
The MIL is a good person and an overly generous person, but that stems from her basic clingy and needy nature. I've never met anybody who needs as much reassurance as her. Her general lack of self-confidence makes me want to cringe. Silver is more of a mother to her own mom than her mom is to her.
The FIL refuses to shake my hand when we meet. I should say "refused," because I stopped playing his bullshit game and I haven't offered to shake his hand in three years.
The thing is, the in-laws are not the kind of people I would choose to surround myself with. Look at my e-friends like you, moi, ghost, T, Tomek, eveningstar, etc. You are all intelligent, open-minded, kind, and confident people with killer senses of humor... and more importantly you tolerate my basic annoying nature. My in-laws aren't necessarily bad people, but they're missing several of those traits.
I will tolerate the in-laws' company. I will be polite. I will entertain small talk. I do these things because I respect Silver, not necessarily her parents. I guess, in the end, you call my feeling toward my in-laws "ambivalent at best."
I'm sort of the glue between my brother's girlfriend and my mom...
She and my mom get along pretty well, but they're just polar opposites in too many fundamental ways. G/F is realistic and somewhat brash; mom is delusional and sort of lives in fantasy-land with most things. G/F is self-assured and doesn't seek pity or help, ever; mom likes to play victim. G/F is open minded about religion; mom is dogmatic.
I don't think G/F can stand being in the same room with my mom for long periods of time... but neither can my brother. I think the attitude comes from him, mostly, which is the real source of the problem. If he respected my mom a tad more, or at least tried to understand where she's coming from, G/F would too, by proxy. But he's pretty impatient and sometimes unnecessarily harsh with my mom, so of course his G/F picks up on that, and sometimes even tells him he's wrong to be like that with her, but one-on-one, she'd admit she shares my brother's impatience/hostility.
I think a lot of times, the in-law situation is even more of a problem because the family member him/herself doesn't have enough respect for their own blood... that's my opinion on the situation I observe in my own family, anyway...
Oh where to begin...
My in-laws are still going through a rough time. About a year ago, we found out that my FIL had been having an affair with a 'family friend' for the past 15 years (and apparently there were others before her). It's been crazy in our family ever since. The worst part is, they don't see that what is going on in their lives effects ours as well.
My story. . . is that my boyfriend's parents are only vaguely aware of my existence.
It may be for the best, because he was raised by uppper-middle class suburban conservative repulican catholic parents. . . and here I am, liberal once-baptist-now-not, gay-loving, tree-hugging, black-haired. . . me.
I maintain that I'll make a good impression once I'm introduced to them, because that's how my parents raised me. I have a knack for winning "adults" over. (With the exception of most of my HS Teachers)
I'm nervous, still, because I've been given the impression that his parents (or perhaps mother) can be very fickle, and that they have a history of throwing their weight around to get what they think is right.
so I'm counting on them seeing that I love him, and I try everyday to take care of what he and i have together, and make sure he's successful and appreciated, and hopefully that, above all else, will shine through when the time comes for me to meet his family.
I posted a little about mine over my page. I just had a weekend visit with them...argh! In all seriousness though, mine could be much worse. They are actually pretty cool.
thanks for these. i am going to post about my in laws... soon. i hope. MIL has kicked it up a notch since LB was born, and it feels like a major explosion is imminent. we already had tears this weekend (both she and i). things are going to have to get worse before they get better.
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