So there's a big event happening one evening this week—basically a huge promotion for the company followed by a big dinner. A lot of important locals will be there checking out our product, and it sounds like quite a shindig. It wasn't said to be mandatory for employees—and by the time I was told that I could go if I wanted, I had already committed to a tutoring appointment. I told the receptionist that I would not be able to attend because I had a tutoring commitment.
NOW I start hearing from a co-worker that I "have" to go. So I ask the marketing manager and she says no it is not mandatory, but there will be a lot of nice wines to try and important people to meet (oh goodie!), and the dinner afterwards is very nice.
My co-worker then tells me not to listen to this manager, to listen to HER because HER manager has been here longer than mine has and HER manager told her to tell me that it's very important that I go, "especially" because I missed the staff barbecue at the #1's house this summer (I was working that evening, too.):
It is not necessarily mandatory but it is more favorable for you to go. Ultimately you have to do what you want but do not be surprised if there are comments about you not being there if you do not go.
Is that a threat? What is that? I'm really beginning to hate working in an office like this—everyone is nasty to everyone else behind their backs but to their faces they are nice. It seems I'm going to get talked about and shit on no matter what I do. I thought that by staying quiet and just doing my work I'd be fine, but I guess I was wrong.
I could cancel the tutoring appointment but it is really last minute, and I'd definitely rather tutor than go drink wine and rub elbows with bigwigs. Pffft. But is it going to lead to more trouble than it's worth if I don't go? I don't know what to do…. But I need to call my tutoring client today if I am going to cancel.
5 comments:
you looking to move up in that company? to become one of the suits? if so, you should prolly go. if not, do your thang and say "phuq all" to that sort of back biting b.s.
2 cents.
Stick with the tutoring.
I have known people in my company who have gone to all of those events and others who have gone to none. I have gone to some, but not all. What I have found that matters the most is how well do you perform doing your job, not the attendance record at extra-hour events. Of course, this is how it is where I work, but I can't imagine it would be terribly different in this respect.
I'm with Ghost.
Ghost--good point, and good advice. I'm going to do my thang.
Phil--I don't know what the backlash will be but i'm missing out on drinking WINE to TUTOR. if people can't see that i have my priorities straight, then, in the words of ghost, "phuq them!"
Jag-- 3 for 3 all right!
thanks you guys, your input did help me make my final decision to stick to my guns.
People in the office environment just want to talk about each other. If you don't go, they'll talk about you. If you go, they'll talk about what you ate or who you talked to or what you wore. Just do what's right for Phx.
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