Cracks and splinters

Discussion of questions asked in an email, and the responses I received.

Raven says:
re:quest 1-if he thinks you are the same, but he is getting more tired of it, sounds like he was kinda tired before

Raven says:
is it a general problem or the pot thing

Phx says:
recurring pot thing. he's changed a lot with it but i kinda mention about it everytime he does it. so i bug him when i do that

Raven says:
well keith was the same way-he thought i shouldnt be allowed to make him choose

Raven says:
he did quit supposedly for me

Raven says:
bur later it got ot where he didnt

Phx says:
ohhh

Phx says:
well at least he did for a bit

Raven says:
everyone else says he didnt but i believe him

Raven says:
ok i jsut finished reading that

Raven says:
please please dont get mad at me but i think he sounds like a punk

Phx says:
yeah--this is the first time he's said so much to me in such a nasty tone. it's really not normal for him--he was angry and tired and down and all the rest when he got this...

Raven says:
sweetie i dont know, but it sounds like he isn't going to give up the drugs

Robin says:
and you definately dont want them

Phx says:
i know....

Phx says:
but there was so much good in this relationship, i dont want it to all go to shit because of DRUGS. i dont want to let them affect my life like this

Raven says:
i know it would be hard but maybe you all should take a break if thats possible

Raven says:
i understand that but if you keep the relationship, you will have them affecting you also

Phx says:
that's true. how do we take a break if we are living together though?

Raven says:
hmmm thats a toughie

Raven says:
do you have someone you could maybe stay with for a few days or weeks maybe

Phx says:
no, i mean he could stay at his parents place if he decided to but i dont really have anywhere to
go--i could try to crash at a freinds but i dont want to get into talking to other people about this

Raven says:
right

Raven says:
that makes sense

Raven says:
the thing is too is if he sees no harm in it, what about your kids

Raven says:
will he allow it

Raven says:
or not. really how can a parent who does it tell a child that it is so bad for them

Phx says:
i dont even want to think about that-- i couldn't handle it if they thought it was ok for kids to do drugs.

Raven says:
have you asked him about what he would do with his children

Phx says:
yeah but i can't remember what he said

Raven says:
keith always said that he wouldnt let his children but like i said how can you tel them no if you are doing it yourself

Phx says:
exactly-